[The family romance of neurotics] 1909-003/1914.en
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    The detachment of the growing individual from the authority

     

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    of the parents is one of the most necessary, but also one of
    the most painful achievements of evolution. It is absolutely
    necessary for this detachment to take place, and it may be as-
    sumed that all normal grown individuals have accomplished it
    to a certain extent. Social progress is essentially based upon
    this opposition between the two generations. On the other hand,
    there exists a class of neurotics whose condition indicates that
    they have failed to solve this very problem. For the young child,
    the parents are in the first place the sole authority, and the
    source of all faith. To resemble them, *i. e.*, the progenitor of the
    same sex; to grow up like father or mother, this is the most
    intense and portentous wish of the child's early years. Pro-
    gressive intellectual development naturally brings it about that
    the child gradually becomes acquainted with the category to
    which the parents belong. Other parents become known to the
    child, who compares these with his own, and thereby becomes
    justified in doubting the incomparability and uniqueness with
    which he had invested them. Trifling occurrences in the life of
    the child, which induce a mood of dissatisfaction, lead up to a
    criticism of the parents, and the gathering conviction that other
    parents are preferable in certain ways, is utilized for this attitude
    of the child towards the parents. From the psychology of the
    neuroses, we have learned that very intense emotions of sexual
    rivalry are also involved in this connection. The causative factor
    evidently is the feeling of being neglected. Opportunities arise
    only too frequently when the child is neglected, or at least feels
    himself neglected, when he misses the entire love of the parents,
    or at least regrets having to share the same with the other
    children of the family. The feeling that one's own inclinations
    are not entirely reciprocated seeks its relief in the idea,—often
    consciously remembered from very early years,—of being a step-
    child, or an adopted child. Many persons who have not become
    neurotics, very frequently remember occasions of this kind, when
    the hostile behavior of the parents was interpreted and recipro-
     

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    cated by them in this fashion, usually under the the influence of
    story books. The influence of sex is already evident, in so far
    as the boy shows a far greater tendency to harbor hostile feelings
    against his father than his mother, with a much stronger inclina-
    tion to emancipate himself from the father than from the mother.
    The imaginative faculty of girls is possibly much less active in
    this respect. These consciously remembered psychic emotions
    of the years of childhood supply the factor which permits the
    interpretation of the myth. What is not often consciously re-
    membered, but can almost invariably be demonstrated through
    psychoanalysis, is the next stage in the development of this
    incipient alienation from the parents, which may be designated
    by the term *Family Romance of Neurotics*. The essence of
    neurosis, and of all higher mental qualifications, comprises a
    special activity of the imagination which is primarily manifested
    in the play of the child, and which from about the period pre-
    ceding puberty takes hold of the theme of the family relations.
    A characteristic example of this special imaginative faculty is
    represented by the familiar day dreams,63 which are continued
    until long after puberty. Accurate observation of these day
    dreams shows that they serve for the fulfilment of wishes, for
    the righting of life, and that they have two essential objects, one
    erotic, the other of an ambitious nature (usually with the erotic
    factor concealed therein). About the time in question the child’s
    imagination is engaged upon the task of getting rid of the parents,
    who are now despised and are as a rule to be supplanted by others
    of a higher social rank. The child utilizes an accidental coinci-
    dence of actual happenings (meetings with the lord of the manor,
    or the proprietor of the estate, in the country; with the reigning
    prince, in the city. In the United States with some great states-
    man, millionaire). Accidental occurrences of this kind arouse
     

    63 Compare Freud, "Hysterical Fancies, and their Relation to Bi-
    sexuality," with references to the literature on this subject. This contri-
    bution is contained in the second series of the "Collection of Short Articles
    on the Neurosis Doctrine," Vienna and Leipsic, 1909.

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    the child’s envy, and this finds its expression in fancy fabrics
    which replace the two parents by others of a higher rank. The
    technical elaboration of these two imaginings, which of course by
    this time have become conscious, depends upon the child’s adroit-
    ness, and also upon the material at his disposal. It likewise
    enters into consideration, if these fancies are elaborated with
    more or less claim to plausibility. This stage is reached at a time
    when the child is still lacking all knowledge of the sexual condi-
    tions of descent. With the added knowledge of the manifold
    sexual relations of father and mother; with the child’s realiza-
    tion of the fact that the father is always uncertain, whereas the
    mother is very certain—the family romance undergoes a peculiar
    restriction; it is satisfied with ennobling the father, while the
    descent from the mother is no longer questioned, but accepted
    as an unalterable fact. This second (or sexual) stage of the
    family romance is moreover supported by another motive, which
    did not exist in the first (or asexual) stage. Knowledge of
    sexual matters gives rise to the tendency of picturing erotic situa-
    tions and relations, impelled by the pleasurable emotion of placing
    the mother, or the subject of the greatest sexual curiosity, in
    the situation of secret unfaithfulness and clandestine love affairs.
    In this way the primary or asexual fantasies are raised to the
    standard of the improved later understanding.

    The motive of revenge and retaliation, which was originally
    to the front, is again evident. These neurotic children are mostly
    those who were punished by the parents, to break them of bad
    sexual habits, and they take their revenge upon their parents by
    their imaginings. The younger children of a family are par-
    ticularly inclined to deprive their predecessors of their advantage
    by fables of this kind (exactly as in the intrigues of history).
    Frequently they do not hesitate in crediting the mother with as
    many love affairs as there are rivals. An interesting variation
    of this family romance restores the legitimacy of the plotting
    hero himself, while the other children are disposed of in this

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    way as illegitimate. The family romance may be governed be-
    sides by a special interest, all sorts of inclinations being met by
    its adaptability and variegated character. The little romancer
    gets rid in this fashion for example of the kinship of a sister,
    who may have attracted him sexually.

    Those who turn aside with horror from this corruption of
    the child mind, or perhaps actually contest the possibility of such
    matters, should note that all these apparently hostile imaginings
    have not such a very bad significance after all, and that the
    original affection of the child for his parents is still preserved
    under their thin disguise. The faithlessness and ingratitude on
    the part of the child are only apparent, for on investigating in
    detail the most common of these romantic fancies, namely the
    substitution of both parents, or of the father alone, by more
    exalted personages—the discovery will be made that these new
    and highborn parents are invested throughout with the qualities
    which are derived from real memories of the true lowly parents,
    so that the child does not actually remove his father but exalts
    him. The entire endeavor to replace the real father by a more
    distinguished one is merely the expression of the child's longing
    for the vanished happy time, when his father still appeared to be
    the strongest and greatest man, and the mother seemed the dearest
    and most beautiful woman. The child turns away from the
    father, as he now knows him, to the father in whom he believed
    in his earlier years, his imagination being in truth only the ex-
    pression of regret for this happy time having passed away. Thus
    the over-valuation of the earliest years of childhood again claims
    its own in these fancies.65 An interesting contribution to this
    subject is furnished by the study of the dreams. Dream-in-
    terpretation teaches that even in later years, in the dreams of the
    emperor or the empress, these princely persons stand for the
     

    65 For the idealizing of the parents by the children, compare Maeder’s
    comments (Jahrb. f. Psychoanalyse, p. 152, and Zentralblatt f. Psycho-
    analyse, I, p. 51) on Varendonk’s essay, “Les Idéals d’enfant,” Tome VII,
    1908.

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    father and the mother.65 Thus the infantile over-valuation of the
    parents is still preserved in the dream of the normal adult.

     

    65 Dream Interpretation (Traumdeutung), II ed., p. 200. See Brill’s
    Translation, Macmillan & Co., 1913.